I don't particularly like being compared to a cow, or being told that liking to fuck reduces my market value. In the infamous words of Jay Z, "Ladies is pimps too, go and brush your shoulders off." I dare you to be a lady pimp. Don't do the friends with benefits thing if deep down a committed relationship is all you want. Don't start a FWB thing with someone in an open relationship unless you know their partner is legitimately cool with it.
Don't be FWBs with an ex you are still emotionally attached to, or someone that you are secretly in love with, as it will make you miserable. There aren't really great ways to test for these viruses, a huge percentage of the population already have them, condoms don't 100% protect against them, and it's possible to be asymptomatic your entire life. This kind of situation can breed competition and drama, and I don't enjoy being told what I can and can't do with by a fuckbuddy's insecure girlfriend.
What's the best way to get my non-claw-digging intentions across without seeming like a slut?Some women in affairs are good women, good wives, and good mothers. (I liked the one that had naked Justin Timberlake better.) I personally think this is a crappy plot premise for a romantic comedy, because it gives some pathetic moviegoers the mistaken idea that their out-of-their-league/commitmentphobic bootycall friend might actually commit someday. The whole point of having friends with benefits is that you can have sex and companionship without the drama of a real relationship, and if the situation doesn't work out, you can cut your losses and move on without a traumatic break up.Unlike women, a lot of straight dudes FANTASIZE about being "used" for sex, so you don't have to feel bad about this. Putting your sexual eggs in one emotionally unavailable basket is a recipe for neediness and insecurity, and finding multiple sex partners as a straight woman is usually not that difficult. Don't expect your trick to call you the day after you hook up/drive you to the hospital/remember your birthday. I know a dude who goes to elaborate lengths to wine and dine women when all he really wants is to get laid. Honest, non-committal affection is not the same as inappropriately intense false intimacy. It's not their job to act like a boyfriend, so don't expect them to. I feel like seeing someone once every 2-3 weeks is about the ideal interval to maintain appropriate boundaries. He'll take a lady out to a movie and a fancy meal, then wait until AFTER sex to blurt out, "You know this is casual, right?