It was not long ago that people generally met their future spouses when they were in high school. In 2007, it is not uncommon for people to wait until their late 20s or early 30s to get married. The internet is the daddy of all singles bars minus the loud music and drunk people, (unless you are in front of your keyboard with the music cranked and an empty bottle of vodka). If you do decide to meet up, do so in a public place.
Then college or university education became mandatory and people began putting off marriage until later… Unfortunately for those who wait, it is harder to meet people now that they aren’t going to keggers, toga parties, etc. Beats your mom setting you up with someone with a ‘great personality’!
Many singles are scared of a variety of things when putting themselves online: they'll get stalked, see someone they know, get matched up with a former partner, be outed for a belief, religion or way of being, lose privacy, and so forth.
All of these are valid points, and I've encountered each and every one personally and well as professionally.
We’re all constantly on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Youtube. First and foremost it’s important to state that 1 in 5 relationships starts online these days. Plus, if you’re that worried about their looks, you always can skype.
Be it specific online dating services, or just social media – that’s how people meet now. Let’s be real, it’s not like people don’t lie in real life.
If anything, I have a few added risks beyond the general population's; try telling someone that you met online you give dating advice for a living with a major media outlet, and see how they react. As statistics are a bit tricky to come by for some of these concerns, I will again go back to my own personal and professional experience to say they're rare.
Of the list, the one I encounter the most personally is getting recognized on the street from a dating profile, while with my clients and friends I hear of folks seeing people they know more often than not.
Jake asks, "Bonny, I get that you want me to try online dating to save time, and to meet people outside my social circle.Or you're just so caught up with work that meeting women normally just don't work out for you? Or you have thought about trying online dating but don't want to seem desperate, as all your guy friends might make fun of you, having this stigma that it's probably for losers and creepy guys, with their hairline nearly balding, with their waist pushing out right from under them and wearing their thick glasses, sitting behind the computer in a dark corner, watching porno all day.But, the fact is, statistically more single people are using online dating more than ever, and you are more likely to easily find that quality person in your life to settle down with faster through online dating, instead of hoping to randomly bump into her one day in the real world and that things will work out.Okay, my belief with online dating is that unless you are a busy professional over the age of 25 then you shouldn't do online dating.Sadly I know people in college who are doing this, and well they ain't the brightest of the bunch.